The myriad forms of role-playing are more popular and accepted than ever. It seems like everywhere you go you can find someone who plays some type of role-play game, whether it be tabletop, online, or a LARP. What I am noticing as gaming gains momentum in popular culture is that certain stereotypes are becoming prominent. Now, many stereotypes dealing with gamers are innocuous and I understand the value of comedy. That having been said, however, I am finding that there is one misconception that persists in almost all depictions of RPG players.
I am referring to the stereotype that gamers use roleplaying to escape from their mundane lives and that the lines between reality and fantasy are blurred in the minds of gamers. Look at mainstream movies such as Role Models or even media produced by the “insiders” of the gaming world and you will see this caricature of the escapist gamer. Many of you out there would say that this is meant as a comedic device and that people know that gamers aren’t like that. Unfortunately, from my time spent in the business and academic spheres I know that many outsiders still view gamers as escapists who flee from their unsuccessful social and professional lives into a delusional fantasy world.
I find this idea personally offensive as it insinuates that gamers only game because we need to escape from the normal world where we are “nerds” and “losers” into a fantasy world where we can find success and acceptance. The implication that we need to escape from anything is insulting, many in my own gaming group have good lives by anyone’s standards and are happy with their social lives. This stereotype also implies that we judge the value of our lives against “normal” people and that our activities are inherently less prestigious socially than more mundane hobbies. Think about it, this stereotype calls gamers losers for using RPGs to find friends and acceptance but that is what every group activity is used for. Youth and adult sports leagues are a perfect example, people join them to find friends and enjoy social interaction with like minded people, same as with gaming.
In my mind, gaming has been and always will be a social activity where well adjusted people do something they enjoy, not an escape from the ruins of our failed attempts to be “normal”. I guess what I am saying is that roleplaying is no more of an escape than any other hobby, and I do not appreciate the notion that we are delusional and gaming lets us forget how unsuccessful we are.
I would like to call all of my readers to help put this stereotype to bed. Attempt to be more communicative about what roleplaying really is and what it means to you. We don’t have to justify our choices to others but I feel we should discourage this stereotype in the way we present ourselves. Don’t buy into the stereotype and try not to encourage it in popular media.
But that is just my opinion, let me know what you think of this stereotype and its influence on roleplaying in the comments below.
- Gestalt Gamer (Dan)












